cyclist wrote:
I always refer to them as women except in discussions like this. Most of them would prefer to leave their past behind and live entirely as women. It is not a "lifestyle" choice but a birth defect.
You can see the mixture of conflicting fantasies and realities here.
What the porn industry displays Transgender women as is the exact opposite of how many Transgender women wish to be viewed.
Those are some of the most reasonable things I ever read from someone not suffering that birth defect himself / herself. And in fact, a birth defect is what describes it best. It's an organ coming to be during pregnacy, because it is written in the DNA, and an inner gender identity imprint, that is written in just the same DNA. There is a study showing that a trans woman's brain structure is much closer to female brains than to male brains, before hormone therapy already.
As for words again, there are many more. Some sound more insulting than others do, often, people just don't know. And yes, those terms go with local differences. In my country (Germany), we learn English as a foreign language, so often, we're more aware of the linguistical differences between sex and gender than the native speakers are, even more so in slang. As I said, I prefer transsexual. Shemale I never minded as a description of the status pre-surgery, as I said, but that's all. I don't see the need to be insulted, but most do. I guess many people tend to think ladyboy would be less insulting, but same association to porn industry, same parts of the word used. Plus, strictly speaking, that's Asien girls doing without much medical treatment (cannot afford it). Here, most think the Thai girls have the jackpot, because they have an oh so fine word for themselves, being "katoey". But sorry, I'm trying to learn some Thai (for being thankful, it's where I had my surgery, instead of German crap surgery), katoey is just another insult as for where the word comes from, and originally it's something in between of gay and hermaphrodite, or even more "sex in between". Those Thai girls having done sex reassignment surgery will prefer "kathoey phleng phet", which means "sex in between that changed sex", which then translates back to "transsexual"... ...because: "transsexuality" in Thai is "phawaa yaak phlen phet" meaning "condition of wanting to change sex".
No matter how you turn it, the only reasonable word will be woman, or if you want and it's what we talk about, trans woman. It's a bit like me living "semi-stealth", if that makes sense. Yes it does, because I don't mind helping my ex-boyfriend with the CSD booth for his forum, but in normal life, no one noticed I wasn't born a girl and I for sure don't tell.
Bazinga wrote:For me personally I've choosen to keep my "equipment" because 1) I love sexual pleasure(and I didn't want to risk it), because since I'm only attracted to women why would I take away what works for me and my lady. 2) I've had it my whole life so I'm more just used to it, if it ain't broke I'll keep it lol, well at least for me. I definitely won't list all the other reasons so I'll save you the TMI. But let's just say I'm happy with me choice, I choose to perfect my face and body, yes I'm shallow lol, but my point is if a trans woman has the surgery or not has no value on who she is as a woman. Keeping what you was born with doesn't make you a "she-male" or a "tranny", we are all just simply trans women. Please don't take that as an attack, I love you sis, just like I love all my fellow trans sisters.
Nah we're totally fine.
Yes, there are many reasons why to not do this surgery, health, money., surgical results (those in Germany mostly are more like genital mutilation than what it's supposed to be) and so on. I always tell the girls in Germany's biggest transsexual forum I run with my ex that they please pretty please only do this step if it's the last way out. As long as you can still innerly cope with the original organ, stick to it. Healing is hell, takes time and it's well worth the pain, but only, if a vagina is what you see in your inner body landscape. Even more so, as sex reassignment doen't add any passing on top, this one is just for the innerly felt body. And also, never do it for anybody else but you.
[sorry if this gets a bit off-topic, but the last one was really important and the first one was due to good input]
"She-male", "Tranny" dude these terms are like wayyyy outdated, just saying, some might take offence.
, but hey we women do have an oversharing problem sometimes. It's the same reason why guys never join there girlfriends or wifes on girls night out lol.
