Yes - I quite agree that another article ought to look at the reasons why married, "conventional" and otherwise perfectly ordinary people who get on rather well with women might opt to own dolls. I personally see doll ownership as just one of the many ways in which people choose to escape from humdrum life in modern society. Alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, affairs, shopping, soaps, reality TV, social media, etc etc ..... and dolls. Something there for everybody - and most of these escapes have much bigger downsides and are far less creative than our hobby. The worst you can say about doll ownership is that it's rather expensive - though probably not as expensive as a mid-life crisis sports car. The older I get the more I see conventional life as absurd. The Theatre of the Absurd used to be all the rage - I think it needs reviving. When you're young you swallow it all hook, line and sinker ..... that you are a person, a separate ego, who needs to get on in the world, etc etc ..... but gradually it begins to dawn on you that you've been sold a lie by well-meaning people who were sold a lie themselves. I love this quote from Schopenhauer .....haremlover wrote:The presentation of dollkeepers as being on the outside makes for salacious reading for the curious, saying that dollkeepers might be odd but their OK really doesn't at all give the message that it's OK and healthy for what the ordinary might consider to be ordinary guys to enjoy a doll being married.
"He who lives to see two or three generations is like a man who sits some time in the conjurer’s booth at a fair, and witnesses the performance twice or thrice in succession. The tricks were meant to be seen only once; and when they are no longer a novelty and cease to deceive, their effect is gone."
OK - Schopenhauer was a grumpy old man who (like me) had no children, but I still think there's a lot of truth in what he wrote.
Before I finish I'd also like to say a bit more about Second Life, which I mentioned briefly in a post above. Having a female avatar in SL satisfies some of the urges and needs that doll ownership satisfies, funnily enough. You get to choose and design how your avatar looks, buy her clothes, etc etc. Obviously it's no substitute for having a solid 3D doll that you can make love to - but it has its attractions. I gave it up because I couldn't cope with the male attention - and the other escort I was sharing a flat with fell in love with "me". It was all beginning to get too heavy so I had to kill her off. Nor am I really recommending SL to members here. You only have to Google "Second Life addiction" and look at the many pages of cautionary tales to realise that dolls are the safer option. But anyway I've posted a pic of my female alter ego below, hanging around on a dodgy street corner waiting for business. She was in great demand, I can tell you!