Tips/suggestions on rekindling this fire

[KronoSJ903]

So I haven’t brought it up to the hubby again, we purchased a doll for the sense of exploration and trying something new. Maneuvering her was a bit complicated and we only attempted a go one time and it was a flop. He was excited at first and we had a mutual expectation and excitement. But it just fizzled away and she’s been in her box ever since. I tried not to nag but would suggest or bring up including her and his last response was “just get rid of her.” He said he tried and it wasn’t his thing, It felt awkward. I would much rather watch him enjoy this beautiful lifelike doll than ever invite a 3rd person so I’m still hopeful……any suggestions?

[Ava Love]

Yes, leave him alone.

If he doesn't like it now then he never will and will only feel self conscious and under pressure if you try to make it happen again. I suggest you try to sell her.

No good will come from nagging someone to do what they don't want to.

[HoneyHose]

I didn't get an indication of how long you've had your doll, but get the impression it hasn't been too long, and also he might be very self conscious of opening up with the doll, so would try giving him some one-on-one time first.
I would also suggest trying dressing your doll in something that would excite him as his fantasy woman, and letting him find her that way while you're out,
Even letting dress her in the outfit, while awkward, could be arousing.
While it might mean leaving him alone with the doll dressed up to play with at first, a threesome with a doll might take getting used to, so don't give up that easily!
But by no means push him and if it doesn't work out, it won't be for lack of trying, and I'm sure she can find a new home with someone here...good luck!

[SinsuaLuvr]

Sorry to hear you two are still struggling with your doll in a threesome. Maybe dolls really isn’t his thing and clearly he doesn’t want to be pressured. Either suggestions or the doll itself may make him feel threatened, uncomfortable or inadequate. I hate clowns and creepy porcelain children dolls. There’s nothing that would make either sexy for me; likewise some people have similar uncanny valley cliffs that will just be a clear and firm NOPE. Perhaps the doll should remain in storage until you can get to the root of the intimacy and fire concerns.

If you feel the intimacy fire is waning maybe just see if he’s open to discussing each others’ intimacy desires, fantasies or suggestions to keep things interesting. Couples therapy could be another option. If your husband is otherwise physically healthy, maybe consider having the discussion with your/his doctor about adding viagra or cialis prescription. It’s not just for erectile dysfunction it also can increase libido. In the end it takes two to fight, work and contribute to make a relationship successful. Again kudos to you for trying to make it work and think outside the box.

I’ll reiterate: As you are discovering, Having a doll has a steep learning curve. I’d encourage you certainly take your time to learn how to move with them. Practice moving her into positions and poses. Hopefully by now you know what makes your hubby tick and turn ons. Maybe try changing into outfits he’d like and styling the makeup or hairstyles. Discover each other. Tease and be teased. Keep at it and be patient…it is overwhelming all at once and even draining. Dolls aren’t always down for spontaneity, But please know your doll is ever so patient and accepts you both even if you’re physically drained from getting her out of storage and staging her. She will be ready for next time but may take some planning. Planning can be all part of the fun and fantasy. Build up to it and create the anticipation. Maybe she will just be present and watch as a voyeur for you and your significant other. Eventually you can start including your doll into your fantasies and incorporating play. You and your partner will always be the more active and dominant. Dolls are just naturally passive but depends on what you bring into the fantasy and imagination.

This lifestyle is all about exploring what works (or not) in as healthy ways as possible. Keep trying, but if it’s not working, it’s ok and can still be a positive learning experience. There is a huge aftermarket here and members to give support if you want to sell or consider a different lighter model.

[ricardoqdq]

While it might mean leaving him alone with the doll dressed up to play with at first, a threesome with a doll might take getting used to, so don't give up that easily!

This is what I was going to say, that perhaps he should get some 1 on 1 time with the doll and get the awkwardness out of the way before bringing you in, because getting used to a doll can take time.

My first few experiences with a doll were not that great either, and I ended up getting rid of my first doll and thinking that I would never buy another one and that they weren't for me. Well, now I've probably owned like 7 or 8 dolls so my initial impressions were wrong. One thing I have found, personally, is that doll play requires some use of imagination. I see the doll as it is, as an inanimate but anatomically correct object that I am primally and physically attracted to, but at the same time I can imagine that she is moving her body, wrapping her arms around me, or making noises etc. And also there is a bit of personality that I infuse them with. It's kind of a half-reverie. It took some practice to get used to doing that, but once I was able to really get in the mood and in the zone that way, the eroticism just went off the charts.

I think a lot of people, upon having a doll for the first time, suddenly turn off the fantasy part of the brain because it seems they no longer need it now that they have the "real thing." No more spank bank necessary, if you will. But really the fantasy still is necessary, you just have a much more solid canvas to paint it on.

[RevJack]

I am really shocked at the negativity in this post. So I week come in with a completely different attitude and approach.
If you want this to happen...
Take the drama out and leave just the eroticism. If you man takes the blue pill, bring him one and tell him to swallow it and wait.
Get the doll out, get her wig pinned onto her and get her into bed. Put her on her back, feet to Jesus, with a pillow under her ass. Lube her up incredibly well. Now get you man in the room, fluff him, straddle the doll cowgirl then lay down flat, boob to boob.
The game here is sharing. You get 4 thrusts, then she gets 4, then you get 4, then she.... Well, you got this.
Your mileage may vary, but I have a hard time thinking of someone who could resist such a thing.
Good knows I couldn't.
There is a lot of psychology behind this rec as well, but I need a minute alone now, so you need to figure that out on you own.

Reverend Jack

[ondsdoll]

So I haven’t brought it up to the hubby again, we purchased a doll for the sense of exploration and trying something new. Maneuvering her was a bit complicated and we only attempted a go one time and it was a flop. He was excited at first and we had a mutual expectation and excitement. But it just fizzled away and she’s been in her box ever since. I tried not to nag but would suggest or bring up including her and his last response was “just get rid of her.” He said he tried and it wasn’t his thing, It felt awkward. I would much rather watch him enjoy this beautiful lifelike doll than ever invite a 3rd person so I’m still hopeful……any suggestions?

You can try to put sexy clothes on the dolls, and maby some makeup. It will look more realistic.
In my opinion, lingerie on a doll and girl always looks better than fully naked also during sex.
The visiual aspect.